Although I’m very much a feeler, when it comes to sharing opinions and understanding the perspectives of others, I don’t tend to become very emotionally involved. Or if I sense myself becoming that way, I rationalize it and get over it because my drive to understand is stronger than my emotional reaction. The only exception to this is if very strong morals of mine come into question, then I will passionately defend them, while still trying to understand the other perspective (although it might be more difficult for me to). Or if someone is giving me redundant and circular arguments, in which case I just get really frustrated.
Anyway, my point is that I’m always surprised when people are personally offended if your opinion is simply different than theirs. There is a difference between attacking someone and shooting them down, and just voicing an alternate view.
For example, if someone says,
“I love Twilight,”
and I say,
“I don’t like Twilight, I think it’s bad,”
and that person reacts with,
“WELL OBVIOUSLY YOU JUST DON’T GET IT THEN BECAUSE YOU’RE STUPID AND YOU SHOULDN’T POST THINGS LIKE THAT ON TUMBLR AND YOU SHOULDN’T SAY THEM OUT LOUD TO ANYONE BECAUSE SOME PEOPLE MIGHT GET OFFENDED AND HOW DO YOU NOT KNOW HOW THAT’S OFFENSIVE?!!!”
I don’t understand. That specific example is fictional. I’ve never experienced the wrath of a Twilight fan like that before. But I’ve been in situations like it. How is it that I am 5000% feeler, and yet when someone disagrees with me, I don’t react that way? People just take their opinions so seriously and as soon as someone voices one which is different to theirs, they have an emotional breakdown and begin tossing out insults.
I don’t know if any of you can relate to this, but it’s something I’ve been noticing about myself lately. Or noticing about many other people, rather. I am pretty good, when discussing differences in opinions, at keeping an emotional distance and being a little more rational in an attempt to be objective. Most people are not.